Dear Abby: We thought we were talking privately, but it was caught on her doorbell video

DEAR ABBY My husband and I were recorded on video and audio on our daughter s porch thinking we were talking to each other privately Related Articles Dear Abby Is it wrong of me to be stashing away money so I can leave Dear Abby Do I have to change my eating habits when I m in populace Dear Abby My mom wants me to train my toddler in certain tasks It s not going to happen Dear Abby Her air freshener habit has led to an unexpected concern Dear Abby What I meant to be a compliment led to a big rift with my son s wife We were discussing how hurt we were that she didn t want to spend time with us on our th wedding anniversary shortly after she and her husband moved out of state They could easily have driven to a new RV park close to our house Her aunt tried to talk with her about seeing family members and being with us but she refused We have supported our daughter despite all the mistakes she has made She was offended that we had no good thoughts regarding her new life in another state and confronted me about my negativity which was caught on camera I have apologized to no avail about my negativity but I was angry and hurt My husband believes she has to be the one to forgive and forget It s been two years of sending Christmas and birthday cards with no acknowledgement What to do BUSTED IN GEORGIA DEAR BUSTED I agree with your husband Remember the adage The best defense is a good offense It is also known as the strategic offensive principle of war Your daughter knows she was wrong not to come to your anniversary celebration and she also knows how upset you were about it because she has seen it on her doorbell camera However she doesn t want to admit she was wrong and apologize What you should do now is continue sending holiday cards to let her know the ball is in her court and hope that with time she will grow up DEAR ABBY My husband and I have known each other for years and been married for He has a severe drinking concern He still works and doesn t drink during the workweek but he makes up for it in spades on weekends We both stopped drinking alcohol years ago I never started again but he did and now he can t stop He is too proud to seek professional help He s an engineer and thinks he can quit on his own but he is only fooling himself My challenge is that he retires soon and I m afraid he will be drunk all the time To me it is a deal-breaker We are both in our s I retired years ago If I leave him I have nowhere to go with only SSA to endorsement myself Any advice you may have is welcome because I am at my wits end with the whole thing FLOUNDERING IN UTAH Related Articles Asking Eric I signed a prenup and now I m resenting this situation Harriette Cole How do I confront my husband about what I uncovered in the laundry Miss Manners What do I say to their implication that my grandchildren aren t real Dear Abby Is it wrong of me to be stashing away money so I can leave Asking Eric I think their wedding plan is disrespectful to my mother DEAR FLOUNDERING Because you didn t mention Al-Anon the -step venture that supports friends and families affected by a loved one s drinking I will assume you have never attended any of their meetings Go online to al-anon org info and find out whether there are meetings near you You may be surprised to discover there are plenty of If you attend meetings you will find others who are experiencing problems similar to yours and learn coping methods You might even find a roommate if you choose to move out Please don t wait to start Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA